Hitched

September 3 2007

Yes, the rumors are true. Today is a special day.

Happy birthday to Alan, Nathan, and Rich (and Chris?).

OK now that that's out of the way :-)

Yesterday, on the shore of Lake Michigan, I got married! Please allow me to self-introduce Mr. and Mrs. Deborah and Ed Brill:

Mr. and Mrs. Brill

We were married on the beach here in our community in the Town of Fort Sheridan in the presence of family and friends.  I am sure the 15-20 other people down at the beach at the time were a bit surprised by the sudden appearance of a wedding party -- but I was surprised that there were 15-20 people at what is normally an empty beach!

Several things about the celebration were very interesting to me.  First, I struggled for many weeks as to what, if anything, I was going to share on the blog about getting married.  In the end, other than a couple of obvious-if-you-knew hints, I didn't write anything in advance.  It was one of the first times since I started mainstream blogging that I asserted a line between my professional and personal lives.  This resulted in a number of comments in the last few days, as word got around, of "I had no idea!"  The pseudo-celebrity public presence of being a corporate blogger, read by many of my coworkers as well as customers and partners, means that you all know a lot more about me than I know about most of you.  Given that, I decided at some point that this was an event where I wanted no public build-up, no "where's Waldo" contests, and, honestly, no expectations around attendance.  We wanted a very small wedding, and it was very difficult to decide who, amongst a very tightly-knit and long-term community and a long tenure at a single organization, to include in the festivities.  Thus, radio silence ensued.  Obviously I am incredibly happy and do want to share that with everyone, but I thought it would be better done when it was over.  

Second, getting married in the modern era of communications means that greetings came yesterday in many forms.  In addition to the traditional greeting card and phone calls, we received notes via e-mail, text message, instant message, blog entry, facebook, flickr, and at one point before the ceremony started, I thought we were getting buzzed by one of those flying greetings trailing a single-engine plane (it turned out to be advertising Dick's Last Resort -- I'm sure there's an irony in there somewhere).  Thank you to all of you for those wonderful and warm thoughts.  

Technology also played a part in a very different aspect of the wedding.  In Judaism, the couple signs a "Ketubah", a marriage contract, as part of the process.  When I was first married 15 years ago, it was a fill-in-the-blank document which the Rabbi or someone used arbitrarily.  Yesterday, we signed a beautiful, 100% personalized Ketubah ordered over the web.  Character map was my friend as I carefully input the relevant Hebrew language information via an English keyboard, and the artist/company that made it was incredibly helpful.  It's a fantastic-looking (and surprisingly large) document, now proudly displayed in our home.

Finally, our wedding renewed my faith in the basic value of human kindness.  We were fortunate to have just about everything go "right" -- from the celebrants to the weather to the caterer to managing those last-minute issues (though if you hear any rumors about me ending the ceremony in the back of a police car, that is true).  A large number of people, mostly strangers, made things happen for us that I would never have imagined possible.  I have my wife to thank for her confidence, many times over.

It is trite to say that I am the luckiest man alive, but it is genuinely how I feel.  And my wife and I will (continue to) live the life we've always wanted.  Thank you to all of you for being a special part of it.

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  1. 1  Stuart McIntyre  |

    So pleased for you Ed. Many congratulations to you both!

  1. 2  Almar Diehl http://www.domino-weblog.nl |

    Congratulations to you both Ed! And I can imagine why you kept it silent for all of us ;-)

  1. 3  Nathan T. Freeman http://nathan.lotus911.com |

    Congrats again, Ed!

    I'm going to assume that the back of the police car thing was a friend or relative with a cruiser to whisk you off through any impeding traffic to your honeymoon destination.

  1. 4  Kurt Binnie  |

    Congratulations to the both of you and your families. I wish you a lifetime of happiness together.

  1. 5  Ben Langhinrichs http://www.GeniiSoft.com/showcase.nsf/GeniiBlog |

    Congratulations!

  1. 6  Andrew Price http://www.healthspace.com |

    Congrats Ed!! Have a fantastic honeymoon! :)

  1. 7  Phil West  |

    Yay! Congratulations!

  1. 8  Neil  |

    Congratulations to you both, and have a great honeymoon.

  1. 9  Mitch Cohen http://www.curiousmitch.com |

    Mazal Tov

  1. 10  Bruce Elgort http://www.BruceElgort.com |

    Mazal Tov Ed!

  1. 11  Vitor Pereira http://www.vitor-pereira.com |

    Congratulations again!

    Wishing the two of you all the happiness for many years to come.

  1. 12  Jess Stratton http://www.mattandjess.net |

    Congrats Ed!! BEAUTIFUL shot of you both, as I posted on Flickr, you both look so serene and happy. Keep that picture close to you always, I'm sure it will make you smile every time you look at it!

  1. 13  Pedro Quaresma  |

    Congratulations Ed!!!! :-)

  1. 14  Gerco Wolfswinkel http://www.domino-weblog.nl |

    ahh.. so that's why you said september 2nd was going to be an interesting date :-)

    Congratulations, good luck, and all the best!

  1. 15  Alan Bell http://www.dominux.co.uk |

    congratulations! best of luck for your future together.

  1. 16  Mike Werner http://news.motorbiker.org/ |

    Congrats to both you!!! Great idea getting hitched on the beach. Wish that could be done here in France..

    May all your problems be little ones.... ;-)

  1. 17  Mike  |

    Congratulations Mr & Mrs Brill

    Here's to many many many years of happiness

    Mike

  1. 18  Karen Demerly  |

    Congratulations to both of you!

    And good for you for drawing that line between public and private life. In this day and age of celebrity for celebrity sake, and pretty much everyone blogging to the whole wide world, I find myself grateful for those who keep the important stuff private.

    Beautiful photograph, you look so great together. Much happiness and many blessings to you and your families now, and in the future.

  1. 19  Shoaib Nizami http://www.corporits.com |

    Congratulations to both of you !

  1. 20  Alexander Kluge http://www.kluge.de |

    Congratulations! All the best from Berlin!

  1. 21  Vince Schuurman http://blog.vinceschuurman.com |

    Congratulations!!!

    Don't let 'them' disturb you on your honeymoon ;-)

  1. 22  John Head http://www.psclistens.com |

    It was a great day Ed .. thanks for letting me participate.

    As for the cop car, it was really a park district cop ... so not the same thinig :-)

  1. 23  Rob McDonagh http://www.CaptainOblivious.com |

    Congratulations!

  1. 24  Michael Urspringer http://www.urspringer.de |

    Congratulations to both of you!

  1. 25  Christian Tillmanns http://www.ligonet.ch |

    Congratulations!

    knwersdsserdtstsddtsdfs (my two year old camille wanted also send you her best wishes)

  1. 26  Steve Castledine http://www.stevecastledine.com |

    Huge congratulations!

  1. 27  tonyo  |

    Big congrats to you and your wife !!

  1. 28  David Russell  |

    Congrats - now turn off blackberry for honeymoon

  1. 29  Michael Weitzel  |

    Mazal Tov Mr. & Mrs. Brill! Am very pleased for both of you. After 9 years of married life I still have fond memories of our wedding day.

  1. 30  Ben Poole http://benpoole.com |

    Congratulations to you both Ed... no-one can hide with Facebook status messages eh ;o)

  1. 31  Mick Moignard http://www.mickmoignard.com |

    My congrats along with all the rest. Have a good one, both, all of you.

  1. 32  Jay Zeltzer  |

    Congrats!!!

  1. 33  Stephen  |

    Congratulations and best wishes for the future.

  1. 34  Ed Brill  http://www.edbrill.com |

    @22 forest preserve, not park district. And I can tell you that I could NOT let myself out of that back seat :-)

  1. 35  John Head http://www.psclistens.com |

    LOL! fair enough ... not as bad as the lounge chair though :-)

  1. 36  Volker Weber http://vowe.net |

    Sorry we did not make it. Herzlichen Glückwunsch.

    Third time's a charme. Yes, I can count. :-)

  1. 37  Norm  |

    Warmest congratulations to you both!

  1. 38  Mark Dowling http://cork2toronto.blogspot.com |

    mazel tov!

  1. 39  Henry Ferlauto http://www.geniusinside.com |

    Congratulations and best wishes. I wish you both a lifetime of happiness together.

  1. 40  Dennis van Remortel  |

    Congratz to you and your wife!

  1. 41  Chris Whisonant http://cwhisonant.blogspot.com |

    Many congratulations to you and your new wife Ed!! Thanks for sharing this when you did - in your timing.

    Congrats again!

  1. 42  Thomas Hinders  |

    How wonderful..... Jennie and I are celebrating 35 years together on Sept 7th.... the time has FLOWN by <sigh>

  1. 43  Paul Robichaux http://www.robichaux.net/blog |

    Mazel tov, Ed. This is wonderful news, and I wish you both all the best.

  1. 44  Hans Bornich  |

    Congratulations - I wish you all the best!

  1. 45  Philip Storry http://www.not-so-rapid.com |

    Congratulations to both you and Deborah, Ed. I'll be sure to raise a dram to your happiness tonight! :-)

  1. 46  Kevin Pettitt http://www.lotusguru.com |

    Boy Ed, you really know how to celebrate a day of multiple birthdays ;-). A big congratulations to you, Deborah, and your family on this happy occasion.

  1. 47  Christian Brandlehner http://chris.brandlehner.at |

    Congratulations to both of you!

  1. 48  Tzahi  |

    מזל טוב לכם

  1. 49  Tim http://www.741231.com |

    Congrats, and all the best !!!

  1. 50  Mika Heinonen http://siipi.com/mika |

    Congratulations Ed! I can't wait for the mini Ed Brills :)

  1. 51  davide pannuto  |

    Great Ed !!! My (and Italian) best congratulation !

  1. 52  Jens Polster http://www.domblog.de |

    Congratulations!

  1. 53  Mike Lazar  |

    Congrats, Ed!

  1. 54  Hynek Kobelka  |

    Congratulations and best wishes to both of you !

  1. 55  Wild Bill http://www.billbuchan.com |

    Many congratulations and may you both be happy for a long long time...

    After 20 years, I think I can impart a few words of wisdom for a very happy marriage.

    1. "Yes dear, of course, your right"

    2. Distance.

    ;-)

    And remember - if you can survive the stress of actually getting married, not to mention inheriting a mother in law - everything else is easy.

    ---* Bill

  1. 56  Warren http://www.elsmore.net |

    Congratulations to both of you!

  1. 57  Scott http://thebigredshark.com |

    Your right .. 'we' know you, better than you us, and thanks for that. So from one of 'us':

    Congratulations to you both and best wishes for the future..

    Scott :-)

  1. 58  Chris Blatnick http://interfacematters.com |

    Congratulations!!!

  1. 59  Joerg Michael http://jmichael.eu |

    Congratulations to both of you!

  1. 60  Mark  |

    Congratulations!

    The Lord blessed you with beautiful weather this weekend. I pray that your marriage is so blessed, as well.

    Best wishes!

  1. 61  Doug Mahugh http://blogs.msdn.com/dmahugh |

    Congratulations, Ed! Some things are more important than others this September 2. :-)

  1. 62  Paul Mooney http://www.pmooney.net |

    Ok.. about to head away.. but had to wish you both the best of luck for the future. You have earned and deserve the happiness you seem to have Ed - very best wishes to you both

    P.

  1. 63  Peter Herrmann  |

    Congratulations and best wishes to you both!

  1. 64  Trond-Are Utle  |

    My very best wishes, congrats, Ed!

    //airplay

  1. 65  Andrew Brew  |

    Congratulations, Ed. I was just three months in front of you.

    Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness

  1. 66  Gregg Eldred http://www.ns-tech.com/blog/geldred.nsf |

    Warmest congratulations to you both!

  1. 67  Richard Gerdis  |

    Ed,

    Much mazal and nachas to you and Deb.

    All the best for the future.

    Rich

  1. 68  Ian Randall  |

    Congratulations to both you and Deborah from Australia

    Ian

  1. 69  Ben Rose http://www.jaffacake.net |

    Ed/Deb,

    Just checked in @ The Argonaut, San Francisco.

    Was great to be there with you guys in Chicago yesterday and no doubt an experience we'll remember for years to come.

    Best of luck for the future

    Ben & Jo

  1. 70  Keith Brooks http://lotustech.blogspot.com |

    Mazal Tov from South Florida. Very nice ketuba and yes they only come in large when you get an artist to do it. Something about PR/marketing :-)

    Maybe now you won't travel so much eh?

  1. 71  Philip http://philip9876.wordpress.com |

    Congrats Ed. Wishing both of you a happily married life. Cheers.

  1. 72  Ports http://www.mrports.com/ |

    Many Congratulation to you both

    Ports

  1. 73  Karl-Henry Martinsson  |

    Congratulations, Ed! Way to go! :-)

  1. 74  Steve Chrysostom http://www.toshiba.com/tacp |

    As they say, "long-time listener, first-time caller" -- I read your blog daily, learn a lot, but stay out of the fray. Congratulations, best wishes, and all happiness to you both!

  1. 75  Darryl Miles  |

    Congratulations Ed! May you have a wonderful life together.

    Darryl

  1. 76  alex  |

    Congratulations and good luck!!

  1. 77  Pankaj Sharma http://www.shreecement.net/sysadmin.nsf |

    Best Wishes and congrats !!!

  1. 78  Nick Halliwell http://www.comware.net |

    Many congratulations to you both, I am sure that you will both be very happy. Sounds like a lovely location.

  1. 79  David Racicot  |

    Best wishes.

  1. 80  Ganapathiram Natarajan  |

    Congratulations!

  1. 81  Sean Burgess http://www.phigsaidwhat.com/ |

    Congratulations!

  1. 82  Subhan  |

    Congrats Ed! and my best wishes to both of you.

  1. 83  Randall Shimizu  |

    Congratulations I thought you were already married.

  1. 84  Arjan Uijl http://www.e-office.com |

    Congratulatons and have a nice life together.

  1. 85  Klaus Bücher http://www.ifm-electronic.com |

    Congratulations to the two of you!

  1. 86  Julian Woodward http://blog.woowar.com |

    Many congratulations to you both!

  1. 87  Dave Harris http://www.wavysworld.com |

    Fantastic news, Ed, many congratulations to both of you.

    Here's to a wonderful life together for you all

  1. 88  Jan Hariot http://www.janhariot.nl |

    It's wonderful to see people being so happy. Congratulations!

  1. 89  Jeff Picco  |

    Congratulations!

  1. 90  Lars Olufsen http://www.olufsphere.com |

    That's simply fantastic.

    Congratulations to the both of you.

    Best wishes for your future.

  1. 91  Bill Malchisky  |

    Congratulations, Ed. Here's to a happy and rewarding life together for both of you.

    Thanks for sharing here. Nice way to start the week. :)

  1. 92  Simon Watmough  |

    Congratulations to you both and all the best for the future

  1. 93  Sean Jennings  |

    Congratulations and best wishes for the future.

    (I'm glad you decided to tell all of us blog-readers about your marriage. Although I only 'know' you from reading your blog for professional reasons, its always warming to hear when a fellow human-being finds happiness.)

  1. 94  Steve Cogan  |

    Congratulations & all the best :-)

  1. 95  David Leedy  |

    Congratulations!

  1. 96  Bob Brodsky  |

    Ed & Deb,

    Mazel Tov!

    Second time is THE charm

    Bob & Shelley

  1. 97  Erik Brooks  |

    Congratulations!

    We don't really know each other personally (though we've traded a few posts here), but it is always wonderful to see someone as excited about their spouse as I am about mine.

    All the best to the both of you!

  1. 98  Curt Stone http://www.curtsisland.com |

    Congratulations! Hope your on a wonderful, well-deserved honeymoon.

  1. 99  Tomas Widin http://www.widda.se |

    Congratulations!

  1. 100  Simon Scullion http://simonscullion.com/ |

    Congratulations to you both!

  1. 101  Paul Gaudion  |

    Congrats from down under, Australia.

  1. 102  Phil Randolph http://philrandolph.com |

    Congratulations Ed and Deborah!

  1. 103  Bob Pendley http://www.SailAwayLakeHouse.com |

    Congratulations - I wish you all the best!

  1. 104  Franco http://www.bw.co.za/ |

    Congratulations Ed, may you and Deborah's marriage be filled with happiness!

  1. 105  Adam Gartenberg http://www.adamgartenberg.com |

    Congratulations - all the best!

  1. 106  Rod Westwood  |

    Congratulations Ed! That's great. And the weather was perfect for it.

  1. 107  Bill Brown  |

    Congrats!! May your new MIL like you more than her own child.

    I was hoping to see a link to the arrest report on The Smoking Gun { Link } but I guess it wasn't that big a deal. :)

    @55: You forget, "no, that dress does not make you look fat." Best stated before she can finish asking the question.

  1. 108  Christopher Byrne http://www.controlscaddy.com/ |

    May God be with you and bless you,

    May you see your children's children,

    May you be poor in misfortune, rich in blessings.

    May you know nothing but happiness

    From this day forward.

    Mazal Tov!

  1. 109  Brian Miller  |

    Mazel Tov! I always love hearing about a nice wedding! :)

  1. 110  Ian White http://www.ianwhite.net |

    mazel tov

  1. 111  Mac Guidera http://www.macguidera.net |

    Congratulations Ed and Deborah! I hope you're off to a wonderful honeymoon!

  1. 112  JP Liggett  |

    Mazel Tov to the both of you. Best wishes and I hope you're off to a kicking honeymoon.

  1. 113  Jim Casale  |

    I second what @55 Bill said :-)

    Congratulations and many happy years together

  1. 114  Mike  |

    Hey! Congratulations!

  1. 115  Keith Nolen  |

    Congratulations, Ed!

  1. 116  Thomas Schulte  |

    Congrtulations from here too, Ed.

    Hope you will have many happy years together.

  1. 117  Henning Heinz  |

    Congratulations.

  1. 118  Irv Schor  |

    Mazel Tov, LeChaim, and a Leshana Tova for good measure (in advance) too!

  1. 119  Todd Carpenter  |

    Congratulations Ed and Deborah, I hope you find every day together a new adventure. I can say that the last 7 years of my marriage have flown by and I think this is true when you find the right soul-mate. All the best!!

  1. 120  Darren http://www.dadams.co.uk |

    Isn't it amazing the lengths some people go to to get 120 comments on one blog posting?

    Seriously though, congratulations Mr & Mrs Brill. I had to go look up what "Mazel Tov" means... and now I can say with fear of contradiction "Mazel Tov".

  1. 121  Michael Wuerdemann http://www.engram.de |

    Congratulations!

    Alles Gute!

    הכל טוב לנשואים שלך

  1. 122  Neil Agate  |

    Ed,

    This is great news, thank you for sharing it. Congratualtions to you and your family.

    Neil

  1. 123  Daniel Lieber http://www.iiui.com |

    Mazel Tov!!! Congratulations to you and your families! May you, your bride, and your families have much joy and happiness!

  1. 124  angela caruso  |

    What wonderful news! A lifetime of happiness to both of you. Congratulations!

  1. 125  JYR  |

    Félicitation Ed!!!

    JYR

  1. 126  Marc Leblanc  |

    Congratulations to both of you.

  1. 127  Dan  |

    Mazal Tov!

  1. 128  Brian Benz  |

    Congrats!

    -BB

  1. 129  Rob Novak http://www.LotusRockStar.com |

    2^7+1 congratulations and best wishes to you Ed and Deborah! Both Liz and I send our best. See you in a few days, and I DO understand why you'll be going home so quickly! Best of everything to you.

    -Rob & Liz

  1. 130  Ray Bilyk http://www.thepridelands.com |

    Congratulations! As we Ukrainians say, "Mnohaya Lita!" (Many Happy Years!)

  1. 131  Richard Hogan  |

    Congratulation & best wishes to you both

  1. 132  Mike  |

    My belated congratulations Ed, Mazel Tov!

  1. 133  Joe Litton http://www.joelitton.net/ |

    Wow! ...Congratulations and best wishes!! Heed the advice of Wild Bill and all will be well :)

  1. 134  Tara Warner  |

    CONGRATULATIONS! You both look so happy -- I wish you all the best. Thanks for sharing the news :-)

  1. 135  Henrik Pedersen  |

    Having met the new Mrs. Brill i must say she's a lucky catch.

    Good luck and all the best of wishes two you both.

    <3 (My teenage daughter tells me that smiley resembles a heart ! I dont see it, but i trust her on this one )

  1. 136  Rolf Kremer http://www.r-k.net |

    Congratulations! Wish you a great time, together!

  1. 137  Barry Briggs http://www.edithere.com/barry |

    Hey Ed congratulations from all your friends out in the Pacific Northwest! All the best!

  1. 138  Thomas Gumz http://www.thomasgumz.net |

    Congratulations to both of you!

  1. 139  Scott Stewart  |

    Congratulations and best wishes to you and the Mrs.

  1. 140  Gloria Flaherty  |

    Congratulations to both of you!

  1. 141  Justin http://www.FIGcatering.com |

    Congratulations...again! And, thanks for including us on your blog...if I only knew about this before the event I could have found out so much more about you.

  1. 142  stu downes http://www.sdownes.co.uk |

    congratulations and much happyness!

  1. 143  Libby http://www.notesgirl.com |

    Sorry I missed wishing you happys sooner - but I'm sending luck and joy and long-togetherness vibes to you both.

  1. 144  Ian Scott  |

    Congratulations to you both!

  1. 145  Ted Stanton http://www.ibm.com/developerworks/blogs/page/InsideLotus |

    Best wishes for you and your family

  1. 146  Michel Poleur  |

    Congratulations !

  1. 147  Akihiko Katoh  |

    Congratulations'.Plese come to Japan with your family next time.

  1. 148  Lottie http://www.lotties-shenanigans.com |

    Mazel Tov to you both.

    Lottie :o)

  1. 149  Chris Miller http://www.IdoNotes.com |

    Congrats! Best wishes from Lisa and I

    and yes it was my birthday. :-p